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"I don't want the takeaway to be, pick the next guy off of and marry him.I'm saying, you don't have to do anything differently if you don't want.
With the exception of the minority whose choices are clearly always self-destructive, the best way to work on recovering from bad breakups, as the research above indicates, is by actively pursuing new relationships, not withdrawal.
When guys are ready for that stage of life, they find someone who is good enough that they're totally in love with—but that person may not seem to the outside world to be as appealing in superficial ways—maybe she's not as accomplished or funny as the last girl. Guys don't sit and micro-analyze a woman the way a woman would with a man. Gottlieb: "With online dating, we judge based on objective criteria (height, sports nut), rather than subjective (attraction), which you can't judge until you meet the person. Sign up for Glamour.com's Style Tips of the Week and Beauty Tip of the Day newsletters!
He knows she's not as hot as the last girl he dated, but that's okay. When you read other people's profiles, don't make assumptions or rule them out because of one thing they wrote.
When I started seeing my husband, aka the first guy I wasn't embarrassed to tell my therapist about, I was gobsmacked to realize how much I hadn't known about dating before then.
I didn't have very much fun at it, which is depressing since I didn't pair up until my 30s.